How to Make a Sex Talk Super Simple and Effective

by Amy Lang

It’s really easy! Just use my magic formula: Facts + Values.

Fact = What it is.

Value = What you believe about it.

Here’s what it looks like in action:

Boy: “Mom, what’s a blow job?”

Mom: “Excellent question! A blow job is slang for oral sex on a guy. Oral sex is when one person puts their mouth on another person’s penis or vulva.I believe oral sex isn’t something kids do because sex isn’t for kids.I think it should be part of a committed sexual relationship, and not something done casually or in exchange for something else. It’s not something you ever HAVE to do.”

Or, if you are doing what you are supposed to be doing and consistently starting sex talks, it looks like this:

Mom: “Hey, (boy-child), what do you know about tampons?”

Boy: “Gross, mom. Something with periods…?”

Mom: “Right! A tampon fits inside a girl or woman’s body and it captures the blood from her period. I believe tampons are one of the top five inventions of the 20th century.”

See how easy this is? This strategy is one of the simplest ways to get a sex talk started and to keep them going.

And lucky you, I just gave you two scripts you can put right to work!